1. YOUR ATTITUDE.
If you speak to him rudely, you’re mean and disrespectful to him or keep accusing him of something he’s not doing or you act like you don’t want to make love and you make him beg for it then suddenly you want it; no matter how sexy you are, he will struggle to get erect or sustain an erection for you. Solution: be warm and gentle as a woman, communicate when you’re offended.
Sex starts in the mind. Once he is anxious about something, the man will struggle to sustain an erection. He might get excited at the idea of sexual activity then the stress kicks in and woops, down the pen!s goes. Solution: be there for him. As a man, be vulnerable and talk.
3. TOO USED TO MASTURBATION.
Men who are so used to pleasing themselves will struggle to find the vagina sweet. These men will enjoy the pleasure of the hands rubbing than the in and out rhythms inside a vagina. This is because with self pleasure, the man has learnt to do it as he wants it and the mind has registered that pleasure comes from self- hand jobs, not a wet vagina. Solution: don’t judge him for the habit but teach him to unlearn. As a man, go on a wank fast and teach her how to please you. Sir, masturbation will ruin your sexual life. It will mess you up so bad.
4. FINANCIAL ISSUES.
A man who is having financial challenges that are weighing heavy on him will struggle to make love, especially when everything in the marriage falls on him and he has no one to turn to. Solution: as a woman, don’t put pressure on him, support him and understand him. As a man, tell her about your problems, together come out of the financial mess.
If a man knows that he has done something wrong to you, perhaps saying something bad to you, perhaps failing you or making decisions that fail the family; his guilt might eat him up and he struggles to get hard or stay hard. Solution: forgive him when he confesses and solve things if you still choose to stay with him. As a man, change, get up and do better.
6. TOO SOON FOR ROUND TWO.
Some men are not ready for round two after they ejaculate. After the climax, some men might get excited and hard but lack the power to sustain the hardness. Solution: don’t be in a hurry to have him hard again. As a man, don’t pressure your pen!s, let it recover.
7. EMOTIONAL TRAUMA.
If a man is going through emotional trauma, perhaps he has lost a loved one, he has past wounds that haunt him, he has a sick mother, he had an accident that scared him or a health issue that is concerning him; he will not be relaxed enough to have a prolonged erection. Solution: know how your husband really is, men often suffer in silence. As a man, don’t suffer alone, stop pretending you are OK yet you have a wife to help you heal.
8. PORN ADDICTION.
Men who have fed their minds porn will struggle to hold an erection with a real woman. Their mind is so used to getting excitement from fantasies and imaginations and the real woman’s body has to compete with illusions. Solution: this habit might take a while to die, make his fantasies come true by studying how he likes it, cultivate intimacy, not just sex. As a man, stop living a lie in videos. Block those sites, delete those videos and get to explore the wife you claim to love. A godly marriage don’t need pornography.
9. YOUR MOCKING OF HIS PERFORMANCE.
Once a woman makes a man feel he is not that great in bed, the man will see no use to get and stay hard for her. He is discouraged before he even starts. Solution: praise his pen!s and his bedroom game and he will do more. As a man, have an inner drive to work on pleasing her.
10. LOW SELF-ESTEEM.
A man who doesn’t believe in himself or is self-conscious about the size, shape, thickness or appearance of his pen!s will lack the confidence to sustain an erection. Erections are sustained by an ego high of a man who knows “Yes! I am a sexy man and I will drive you crazy”. Solution: boost his ego by enjoying him when he is naked, show him he is sexy. As a man, own your body and be proud of it.
11. MARITAL ISSUES.
Men love peace, peace makes the mind relax, once the mind relaxes, intimacy is easier; if there are issues upon issues between you two, he may get hard then he remembers the issues or the hurtful words you told him and he loses it. Solution: as a woman, apologise when you hurt him, don’t drag on issues. As a man, stop holding grudges and keeping things to yourself. Speak up and solve the issues.
12. YOU TAKE TOO LONG TO CLIMAX.
If the man feels like pleasing the wife is an uphill task, he pumps and pumps and he climaxes quickly but she takes forever to get to climax; he might feel useless and be discouraged to sustain his erection. Her lack of climax can make him feel he is not good enough. Solution: moan to show him you are enjoying, show him other ways he can please you besides penetration, your clitoris is a good place to start. As a man, don’t give up, there are many ways to please a woman.
13. HE IS NOT IN THE MOOD.
You may play with his pen!s, it gets hard then collapses suddenly. Maybe he is just not in the mood and he is allowed that just like women sometimes can not be in the mood. It doesn’t mean that he is no longer into you or he doesn’t desire you or love you. Solution: if your advances on him don’t work, don’t take offence or make a big deal out of it. As a man, if you are not in the mood, still make her feel special with a cuddle, a kiss or sweet words
14. HIS NEED FOR MORE THAN SEX.
Believe it or not, men are not always about sexual pleasure. Sometimes his pen!s going down is a signal, “Darling, let’s put sex away for now. Talk to me, cuddle with me, find out more about my well-being, tell me more about how you really are, for now, don’t open wide your legs, open up to me”.